Things to consider when planning your Lesbian Wedding

Things to consider when planning your Lesbian Wedding: Two beautiful brides at gorgeous mountain venue.

Planning a lesbian or gay wedding is different than planning a heterosexual wedding, right?

WRONG!

Planning your lesbian wedding will be exactly the same as planning for a heterosexual wedding. You will have to deal with figuring out what you both will be wearing. You will have to deal with what your wedding parties will look like (if you have one). You will still have to coordinate all your vendors like caterer, photographer, DJ, cake and more. And, of course, you will have to deal with your family and friends- figuring out who will be invited and who will not be invited, seating charts and general drama.

However, when planning your lesbian wedding, there are some things that you might want to think about that maybe hasn’t crossed your mind yet.

Dresses

If you decide to both wear dresses, finding matching/ coordinating dresses will be difficult. The whites and designs of every dress is so different that it could take some time and probably a bit more knowledge of what exactly your partner is wearing to figure out. The same can be said for suits as they can be just as tricky to coordinate and make sure that you still look badass in them.

Gender Identity

Now’s the time to figure out what you would like for your vendors and signs to say! Define your gender identity and make your wedding yours! There are so many ways that couples have decided to do this. Keep it traditional and just say “Bride”, like this sign that says “Pick a Seat, Not A Side, Either way it’s for a Bride”. Keep it simple with just your names and have your officiant pronounce you “Equally Wed”. Or define whether you prefer the term “Spouse”, “Partner” or whatever you want! Whatever you decide is going to be perfect!

Walking Down the Aisle

With two “Brides”, have you thought about how you are getting down the aisle? Many of our couples think it’s necessary to have one partner at the front and the second walking down last, but what if you both want to have that special moment? Guess what? There are so many different ways to do this! Here are a couple examples:

Dual Sides! Both you and your partner can come in at the same time from different aisles! Meet in the middle and continue your way to the front.
Walk down together! The idea of your father giving you away can seem pretty antiquated these days. If you’ve already had a first look, why don’t you walk each other down? Or walk separately? Both being escorted by a loved one.
Walk with your officiant!

Wedding Party

Who needs an all female “Bridal Party” or all male “Grooms Party” these days? Bridesmaids and Groomsmen are only for if you want that! Bring in your best friends and have them celebrate you no matter their gender identity! You can have “Bridesmen”, “Groomsmaids”, “Man of Honor”, “Best Mate” and so many other perfect titles for your wedding parties.

There are so many things to consider when planning your Lesbian Wedding but the first and foremost should always be what you and your partner want to do! If it feels right to you, do it! Don’t settle for traditions or think “Well, that’s just the way that weddings are..” You do you, and that is just what this gorgeous couple did for their wedding.

Check out these gorgeous photos from Whitmeyer Photography of two beautiful brides at their gorgeous mountain wedding. This couple rocked their design and planning with their simple rustic decor, gorgeous mountain views and their dog.